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So what’s the vulnerability here? Like, what would it take to be in surrender to your husband, so that the polarity between you can come into right relationship?

It sounds like at the moment you’re in a lot in your masculine in that relationship, and he’s maybe more kind of gone into a submissive role. So that’s going to diminish the Eros in your relationship. And so this is part of the trauma of the feminine, is that we don’t fully trust the capacity of the masculine to hold us. And the masculine in the relationship isn’t fully developed that he can lead the relationship.

A lot of men are diminished in their masculine essence, in their capacity to lead. And so it becomes this inverted polarity, and the Eros of the relationship diminishes.

So in part, what you need your husband to do is step into his masculine leadership, so that you can drop into your feminine surrender. And that’s going to create the polarity again, right? That’s going to create Eros again.

And these, these layers in relationships. So the layer in relationship is this, the there’s this the sameness of you and your husband that allows you to be in resonance. And when you get into the family sphere, then that sameness can then just become like… the the inverse of polarity can happen. But then there’s the same, there’s the resonance and the sameness that needs to happen. You know each other, you trust each other. You’ve got each other’s backs, you’re at, you know… But then the polarity piece is what often gets diminished, and then the Eros dies, and then it becomes sexless and lifeless. And you know, that wild animal just gets put in a cage.

So the insecurity that you’re experiencing with this new person is also the insecurity that you also feel in relationship to your husband if you were completely able to create that polarized position with him. But that insecurity is also part of the Eros, because it’s the it’s like the uncertainty, it’s the unknown, it’s the mystery, it’s the excitement. So in this exploration, you could be asking your husband, like, I need you to take over. I need you to lead. Don’t let me get away with the things that I’ve been getting away with, like, can you lead? Can you can you take me? Can you ravish me? Can you open me beyond what I can open myself or I have control of myself? But, so the, the interesting piece is going to be : Can you let go of control?